I'm attracted to a guy. I like his personality--the
way he thinks, his values, his sense of humor. But I'm
not sexually turned on to him? Will this change?
Sasha: On the one hand, you might create passion. If you enjoy this
man and feel uplifted with him, give him time and
energy. Commit with him to explore a
relationship. Focus on what has heart and
meaning between you and interact with care and
consciousness. Show each other how you like to
be loved--sexually, emotionally and spiritually. Go together to a relationship workshop and learn to
listen actively, speak lovingly and support each other
Attend a tantra workshop or
study the links on teaching a man how
to pleasure you and how
to pleasure a man. When you feel love and trust, connect
on all chakras (energy centers--brow (intuition),
perineum (security), belly (power), heart (love),
throat (communication) and crown (spiritual).
Book a private session with a daka or dakini--a
practitioner of the ancient and modern arts
of love. You might cultivate sexual
On the other hand, you still might not, even with all this focused consciousness, turn-on sexually with your friend. Nonetheless, you'll learn much about yourselves and still have much to share.